A lot of people question why a younger woman would want to date an older man when she can be with any man her own age. Ask any woman who’s openly been in an age-gap relationship with an older man and she’ll tell you about at least one situation where someone has tried to list off the many problems with a big age difference in relationships. Well, a recent study out of the U.K. offers one big reason why dating an older man might actually be better.
According to the study, the one thing that puts the biggest strain on a couple’s relationship is money. Almost two-thirds (62%) of the couples surveyed said that financial concerns posed the biggest threat to their relationship, compared to only 36% who said the biggest cause of relationship strain was an affair. In other words, a relationship is more likely to be threatened by money than by cheating. It makes sense—money can be a touchy subject for couples, especially when you don’t have a lot of it. You both need to be careful about how much you’re spending, which can often lead to disagreements and secrets.
So what does this have to do with age gap dating and being in a relationship with an older man? One of the perks of being in a relationship with an older man is that he’s probably going to be more financially stable than his younger counterparts. That’s not to say that he’s only as good as his deep pockets, but an older man has just had more time to work his way up and establish himself. And what woman doesn’t like getting pampered by her partner?
An older man has also had more time to figure out how to balance his work and personal life. That’s important, because 40% of the couples surveyed felt that long work hours and poor work/life balance were the biggest threats to their relationship.
So the next time someone questions why you’re in a relationship with an older man, throw some of these statistics at them. Maybe you’ll inspire more people to give an age gap relationship a shot.
Chorley, M., “Money worries put a bigger strain on relationships than an AFFAIR, according to study into the nation’s happiness,” Daily Mail web site, February 12, 2015; http://goo.gl/4fQ1W2.