Sometimes finding the perfect May-December romance is easier than you think; you just have to know where to look. For all you know, that handsome mature man you call your friend might just be the age gap love story you’ve been waiting for.
The idea of dating a friend is always a debatable topic—do you risk the friendship for a shot at what might be a life-changing May-December romance, or do you put your friendship first and find someone else to forge your fairy-tale age gap love story with?
If you’re thinking about pursuing a potential May-December romance with a mature male friend of yours, but you’re unsure if he feels the same way, this recent study by Bravo Media might help sway your decision. Surprisingly, 76% of the men surveyed said that they’re open to the idea of dating a woman they consider to be a friend, and 73% even admitted to having sexual fantasies about a female friend of theirs. The numbers were a little lower for the women—58% were willing to risk a friendship for the possibility of finding love and 51% have fantasized about a male friend.
Before you jump in feet-first and make a move on your handsome best friend, bear in mind that although he might be attracted to you, he may not necessarily be interested in a long-term May-December romance. More than half (54%) of the men polled said that they’d definitely hook up with a female friend if it was a “no strings attached” arrangement. It might sound tempting to just have a little fun together, but that might cost you, because it’s going to be that much harder to go back to being just friends. That’s where you have to really evaluate what your priorities are. If you’re just hooking up things go sour, not only can you lose your friend at the end of it all, but you also miss out on that shot to find your dream May-December romance.
Going back to that mature male friend of yours, if you seriously see potential for a genuine age gap love story with him, and if you’re sincerely interested in seeing where things can go, there’s no harm in giving it a shot—just tread lightly. Start by telling him how you feel; be honest, but gentle. For instance, tell him that you’re starting to see him in a different light, not that you’ve already planned your wedding. If he feels the same way, he’ll tell you. And if he doesn’t, he’ll (hopefully) be mature enough to be honest with you too and won’t let it affect the amicable relationship you already share. At the end of the day, you really won’t know unless you try. For all you know, he’s already dreaming about his own May-December romance with you.
Putnam, L., “Is dating your best friend worth it?” New York Post web site, January 8, 2015; http://goo.gl/osxLdR.