If your May-December relationship has hit a rough patch and you’re thinking a romantic getaway might help to smooth things over, you might want to rethink that plan. A recent survey has found that taking a vacation to try and fix a troubled relationship can actually make things worse.
Out of the surveyed couples who took a trip thinking it would help fix their relationship, over 60% said they felt like the trip only exacerbated the problem and 40% of the couples said it added more strain. Ten percent even admitted to avoiding their partner while on vacation and 15% said they barely talked to each other. Fifteen percent of the couples also said that going away together is what helped them realize that they weren’t in love anymore, and almost a third ended up splitting within a couple weeks of coming home.
Getting away from the everyday stress of your mundane life might seem like a logical way to reconnect and reignite the flame in your May-December relationship, but as these findings show, that logic is flawed. In most cases, a “make or break” vacation is only a temporary Band-Aid fix for a May-December relationship that’s going south and it doesn’t actually solve anything. In fact, it can make matters worse, because now that it’s just the two of you, you’re forced to deal with what’s really going on. And even if things are peachy keen with your older man while you’re on vacation, the problems in your May-December relationship will still be there waiting for you when you get home.
If things aren’t going so well in your May-December relationship, it’s important that you deal with those issues instead of trying to run away from them for a while. Vacation or no vacation, those problems won’t disappear by themselves. Of course, it’s never easy walking away from a relationship, especially if you’ve been together for a long time, but in the end, it’s always better to be honest with yourself (and with him) than to drag on a May-December relationship that neither of you are happy in. Rest assured that as hard as breakups are, they’re not the end of the world. Click here to read about seven simple ways that you can come out on top when your May-December relationship falls apart.
What do you think: Can a vacation help save a May-December relationship, or do you agree that it can make things worse?
Payne, E., “Make or break holiday? Don’t count on it! Third of married couples reveal they split within weeks of jetting off …and 10% say trip prompted divorce,” Daily Mai l web site, September 2, 2014; http://goo.gl/BoM7KG.