Age-gap dating isn’t always easy, and adding sex to the mix can sometimes make May-December relationships a little more complicated.
A lot of people assume that the only reason an older man is interested in dating a younger woman is because of the sex—the assumption that the younger and hotter she is, the wilder she’ll be in the bedroom. That’s hardly the case. For a lot of age-gap couples, sex might be part of it, but it’s hardly the foundation of the relationship.
Through dating different people, you may have come to realize that the value of sex differs from one relationship to the next and from person to person. Frequent sex might be a priority for one older man you’re dating, but your next May-December relationship might not be based at all on intimacy. Have you ever wondered why that is?
A new study out of the University of California, Los Angeles might have the answer—some people’s brains are just wired for more sex. The team of researchers used EEG-style brain recordings to analyze how sensitive participants were to certain sexual clues. The participants were asked to look at 225 standardized images that were pleasant, neutral, or unpleasant. The pleasant category included a range of sexually stimulating images ranging from simple kissing to full-on sex. The participants were also asked how many partners they had had sex with over the past year.
The findings showed a correlation between sensitivity to sexual images and the number of partners—those who had strong reactions in their EEG scans to the intimate images, regardless of how explicit the pictures were, were also the ones who had more sexual partners. Interestingly, the findings were the same for both men and women.
This study, which was published in Social Cognitive and Affective Neuroscience, goes to show that some individuals are naturally more sensitive to sexual stimulations. When it comes to age-gap dating, some older men might be inherently drawn to the sexual appeal of an attractive younger woman. But the researchers are quick to clarify that this sexual sensitivity doesn’t necessarily translate to promiscuity. In other words, if the older man you’re dating is one of these sexual people, so to speak, it doesn’t mean that he’s going to jump into bed with the next younger woman he sees, because even though he’s wired to desire more sex, it doesn’t mean that that wiring can’t be rerouted before acting on it.
What do you think: Are some people wired to want more sex than others?
Park, A., “Some People Are Wired to Want More Sex, Brain Study Shows,” TIME web site, May 15, 2014; http://goo.gl/538eRy.