Imagine you and your older man are enjoying a romantic night in, celebrating your May-December romance in the bedroom, when you hear your phone buzzing on the nightstand—do you answer it? You might be saying no, but according to a study out of the U.K., a lot of adults are guilty of letting their smartphones and gadgets get in the way of their sex life.
The study, which was carried out by Durham University’s Centre for Sex, Gender and Sexualities, analyzed data from in-depth interviews with couples of various class, age, and ethnicity who had been together for at least a year. According to the findings, 40% of them admitted to putting off sex because of technology, mainly their smartphones and tablets, and others admitted to rushing through sex so that they could check their messages. What’s worse, over a third of the participating couples admitted that they’ve answered the phone in the middle of sex. So while it might sound absurd to let your phone get in the way of intimacy in your May-December romance, it’s not that far-fetched, because it seems to really be happening in a lot of relationships.
In light of this study, popular condom company Durex—who obviously has a vested interest in people having more sex—recently set out to try and figure out how couples can incorporate gadgets like smartphones to enhance individuals’ sex lives. What they discovered will actually work perfectly for your May-December romance. This solution can not only improve your sex life, but it’s also free and works on every single type and brand of device—it’s called the power button. In other words, turn off your phone!
“After consulting countless experts, academic research and qualitative interviews, the solution turned out to be a straightforward one—we should disconnect to reconnect,” explained Durex’s Head of Global Brand Equity.
How would you feel if your older man stopped mid-thrust to check his text messages? Not a pleasant feeling, is it? If you turn off your phone for a little while, you won’t be missing anything—it’ll all still be there when you turn it back on. If you really can’t deal with turning it off, then at least leave it out of the bedroom. Put it on silent and leave it in another room so you’re not getting distracted by it. After all, doesn’t your May-December romance deserve your undivided attention, at least in the bedroom?
If your older man is the one who’s addicted to his smartphone or tablet and you feel like it’s getting in the way of your May-December romance or even just your sex life, then speak up. Tell him honestly how it makes you feel and that out of respect for you and your relationship, you’d like for him to keep it out of the bedroom. If he can’t do that much for you, then you might want to reevaluate why you’re with him.
Peppe, P.E., “Study: 1 in 3 people have answered their phone during sex,” The Vibe web site, March 13, 2015; http://goo.gl/1kK3WX.