Relationships aren’t easy, especially a May-December relationship. Dating an older man isn’t always just about the money—they require just as much, if not more, effort than regular relationships. Women who date older men are more likely to face issues about kids, marriage, and sex, which can lead to other obstacles or disagreements in your May-December relationship.
If you’re having trouble in your May-December relationship, one researcher has a solution that might work: don’t sleep in the same bed. Colleen Carney, of the Sleep and Depression Laboratory at Ryerson University, believes that sleeping apart can actually bring a couple closer together in the relationship because they’re able to get a better night’s sleep when they’re alone. According to her findings, your brain doesn’t enter the deeper stages of sleep when there’s someone next to you because you’re constantly being woken up by their movements and sounds. Being better rested can make it easier to manage issues that arise in your May-December relationship—have you ever tried to solve a problem with someone who was tired and agitated? It will be a lot easier when you’re both thinking straight.
The other advantage to couples sleeping apart is that you can save sharing the bed for special occasions—it gives you something to look forward to. When you’re living with your older man and you share a bed every night, it’s not really anything different when a birthday or anniversary rolls around. If you sometimes sleep apart, it might feel that much more special when you are occasionally together.
Here’s a real-life example. One couple said they started sleeping apart 14 years ago when the wife was pregnant with their first child—and there’s absolutely nothing wrong with their relationship today. She would often struggle to fall asleep during the pregnancy and often ended up moving to the floor because she didn’t want her restlessness to bother her husband. Meanwhile, he would end up lying still out of fear of waking her up. The constant worrying would just end up causing tension in their relationship, so they decided to try sleeping separately and have continued to do so ever since.
What do you think: Can sleeping apart actually improve a relationship?
“Can Sleeping In Separate Beds Help A Relationship? New Survey Thinks So,” Inquisitr web site, August 9, 2013; http://goo.gl/n6ooP4.